If you are telling yourself you need a girl, you are already putting yourself in desperation mode. And that is the worst place you can be. Women can smell desperation. If you sincerely want a girl, which I assume you do, you should try to put yourself in the best state of mind to attract her. You cannot do that if you come from a weakened position. Time to strengthen yourself so you never have to say… So it is time to chill and turn yourself into a magnet for what you want.

The first thing to do to put yourself on the road to dating success is to get yourself in the right mindset. Get the entire idea of NEEDing a woman out of your head. You need air, water, shelter; but you want a woman. No air, you suffocate. No water, you dry up. No shelter, you freeze. No woman? Well, you may not be particularly happy, but no, you will not die. Need makes you weak, unattractive. Desire can be a powerful attractor when used correctly. I know, because I did it.

So get that out of your head. Need makes you weak, unattractive. Desire can be a powerful attractor when used correctly. But just like any ingredient in a recipe, too much will ruin the dish. Just as too much desire can cross over to the “needy” category. Just like the newbies in Hwood, if you are feeling that you NEED to get a woman you will end up pushing what you desire away from you. So it is time to chill and turn yourself into a magnet for what you want. Happy = attractive.

Focus on YOU for awhile. Give yourself a month of no dating at all. This is your time. Do only the things you enjoy doing and learn some new stuff. You will improve who you are and become a happier person. Happy = attractive. Drop the expectation. Learn to go with the flow in life. If a woman is not attracted to you, so what. Remember the hundreds of women that out there looking for someone like you. You just have to get out of your own way and allow her to find you.